I know it feels like your relationship is the big problem.
Like you just need to figure this person out.
And that's part of it.
But if your partner has become your whole world and source of happiness...
and you feel confused, empty, and out of control,
then self-love is the REAL problem
-- and the real solution.
Have you found that:
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You often feel crazy or wonder if you have an emotional problem.
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When being shown love, you think, "Ugh, how could you love me?" -- and you resent them.
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You don't know how to just relax and enjoy time with your partner; it never feels like enough.
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Their mood can make or break your entire day.
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Everything looks good from the outside, but you feel doubtful, anxious, and empty on the inside.
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You’ve done everything possible to be a good partner... except having your own self-love.
It’s not your fault.
There's nothing wrong with YOU for struggling with self-love.
You've just been taught that self-love
is something you EARN...
...instead of an identity that you BECOME.
When you have a self-love identity, it naturally changes who you are in your relationship.
Suddenly, you're the calm, put-together one.
You're the one with peaceful confidence and secure self-esteem.
You're the one showing up fully present and full of life.
You naturally become your most attractive, loving self -- because self-love is simply who you are.
“But I don't hate myself!
I like a lot of things about myself.”
I felt that way too.
From the outside, everything looked good. I worked hard, furthered my education, had long-term relationships, interests, and a social life.
But on the inside I was barely holding it together.
My self-love, my self-esteem, my inner security and happiness... all came from my boyfriend. I lived in fear of losing him.
When things felt uncertain, I’d fall into despair. I became anxious, upset, insecure, and resentful... and I tried everything to improve things....
...except self-love.
I mean, I tried the positive affirmations, the sexy dance classes, the journaling, meditations, pampering, and self-compassion.
But the idea of feeling love towards myself still felt weird, gross, and forced.
Because I didn’t have an identity of self-love.
When I made self-love into part of who I am... I naturally became a completely different version of myself.
You can read about my full transformation here, and how I can help YOU do the same in your relationship.
Self-love is an identity that YOU learn to unlock
You were born with self-love...and then through the years it got covered up.
But it's not lost.
It's there within you waiting to be found and made a part of who you are.
As your coach I help you step into the identity of self-love in a way that will seamlessly integrate with loving others, and create more secure love and healthy emotions in your life.
Self-Love is an identity
I help you find yours.
